She wanted so badly to tell him how she felt and the hell he had put her through, but he hasn’t listened to a word she has said so far. So, what’s the point now? Yet, she had to get these words out somehow. She had to get these terrible feelings out of her body! So, she opened up her journal and told him exactly how she felt and didn’t hold back. He’s not going to see it and she could be as honest as she wanted.
There were things deep down that raged within her that were able to be released on paper. Stuff she never wanted anyone to see because she’s shocked she feels this way but has now opened that window and won’t close it until all has been expressed. She was taken aback by how angry she was. How can one person stir up these deep and dark emotions that have sat dormant for so long?
This man pushed and pushed until she felt like she could scream at any given moment but she didn’t want to lose her mind in front of him (or anyone for that matter). Once all has been expressed, she feels free now and no one was hurt in the process.
Does this story sound familiar?
Do you have those moments when someone has made you so mad that you want to tell them all the things that you’ve been holding back? You are so angry and said words you wish you hadn’t because once they move from your mouth to their ear, there is no taking it back. You see the life in their body slowly fade as you say all the things that have been brewing in a moment of anger and then once released you feel good it’s out but bad that you hurt their feelings. Sometimes those words will kill a relationship forever and never be forgotten.
When you are in this situation, I suggest you write down everything about the situation and person that is stewing inside you. The great part is you can be as real as you want without the guilt.
- Write down how they make you feel. Why do you feel that way?
- Write what you’d like to say to them.
- It can be a letter directly to them that you will never give them.
- It can be a list of all the things that bother you.
- Don’t worry about making sense, just write!
This activity is extremely therapeutic and you don’t have to let the anger stay inside your body anymore. Release your negative energy onto paper and purge all that needs to be purged so you can feel “normal” again. It is unhealthy to keep your emotions bottled up. Doing that can literally cause physical health problems. It’s so important to stay mentally healthy and not be tortured by negativity that creeps in slowly until you end up having ulcers, migraines, or insomnia.
You can do this for anything that is bothering you.
- Your boss irritating you? Write it down
- Your husband getting on your nerves? Write it down.
- A friend causing you stress? Write it down.
Don’t be concerned about sounding crazy because it can feel like what you are saying is terrible but it doesn’t matter because only you are going to see it (maybe your therapist, too). Write your little heart out!!!
After it’s all said and done. What now?
- Keep it in a safe place where you know no one will read it.
- You can throw it in the trash.
- You can burn it.
- You can keep it for a while to reflect on your thoughts and emotions and then discard it.
It’s completely up to you! The point is to get your rage out and not have to hurt anyone or your relationship in the process. This activity will give you clarity about the situation and then face it head on with a clear mind and in a calm state.
Something bothering you? Put it on paper and see the magic take place right before your eyes!
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